As you know, Cute Glasses and I met on the internet, Match.com to be exact. Within the first four months of dating, we had surpassed many relationship milestones. I met his parents and he had spent time with mine. Our first mini vacation was a success and we agreed that we would book a ten-day trip to Ireland, which would mark about eight months of being together. By many people’s standards, things were moving quickly. Friend and family seemed surprised that we were committed after only five dates. Cute Glasses brother expressed concerns that our relationship was progressing too fast. He was worried that Cute Glasses was falling too hard too fast.
Despite our friends and family concerns, Cute Glasses and I felt that we were perfect for each other. We were consumed with our compatibility and rationalized that at “our age” we had enough experience in the dating world to know the right thing when it came along. Moreover, as I mentioned in the last post, the whole concept of meeting on the internet put things on the fast track. If you think about it, Cute Glasses and I spent over two weeks communicating via email. When you start emailing with an online prospect, the email stage becomes a vetting period. Obviously, you have to ask some personal questions to determine if meeting in person would be worthwhile. It is a unique situation because unlike meeting at a bar, it is common to talk about your feelings on marriage or children. When both people are online, looking for a relationship it is normal to discuss your potential longevity as a couple up front.
Cute Glasses and I also spoke on the phone prior to our first date; the conversation lasted over an hour. It was around the time of the last Presidential election so we talked politics and religion; both of which are controversial subjects. Going into the first date, we already knew quite a about each other and the mutual interest was already established. That is not so on a blind date or when you randomly meet someone in a social situation. Therefore, I would certainly say that Internet dating does put relationships on the fast track because both parties have a boyfriend or girlfriend as the end goal.
Meeting the right person is difficult. If you are lucky enough to have met the right person at work, or in your social circle then count your blessings. These days, it is rare to stumble upon the right romantic situation. If you are like me and you want to take control of your dating future, do not be afraid to give the online thing a try. Match.com is no longer a tool for dorky techies and fans of World of Warcraft…it is for everyday people with busy lives! Looking for a mate is exhausting and we are not getting any younger. Put the pedal to the metal and wiz your way into the personal circle. Time in the “intimate circle” is a-wasting. Wink wink.