I hope you enjoyed yesterday’s blog, which touched on love, money and what I find two people really need to have in common. Stemming from that story, I happened upon and old email from Rocker Boy’s Mom in the aftermath of our relationship. I thought that you might find it interesting/amusing. The final straw in our relationship was an evening that he decided to read my emails. The breach of privacy coupled with our lack of potential as a couple put and end to the relationship. It was the last toddler-like episode I could manage. Take a gander at the correspondence; it provides a unique glimpse into what I was really tolerating in my life at the time…
From: Rocker Boy’s Mom
Sent: Wednesday, Wednesday, a long time ago
Subject: Disbelief and Sadness
Are you O.K.? Between what happened with you and Rocker Boy, and the health crisis of your grandmother, this past weekend must have been just awful for you. I ‘ll keep your grandmother , and your family in my prayers, at this difficult time. I am absolutely in shock about you and Rocker Boy breaking up. I really do love you like another daughter, and to tell you the truth, I am so upset, I even cried.
Maybe right now you both should take a break from living together, but to completely stop seeing each other, knowing that there is a great deal of love between you, would be a shame. You know,
MB, Rocker Boy is very hurt, as I am sure that you are too. You guys have a long, loving history between you, isn’t that worth fighting for? Try and put yourself in Rocker Boy’s shoes. I f he didn’t love you, he would not had reacted as he did. No matter what happened, you both can get through this. Rocker Boy does not know I am writing this e- mail. Please e-mail me back. I am truly ; (
Rocker Boy’s Mom
Sent: Wednesday, a long time ago
To: Rocker Boy’s Mom
Subject: RE: Disbelief and Sadness
Hi Rocker Boy’s Mom,
I am glad you emailed me because I wanted to thank you and Rocker Boy’s Dad for always being nice to me and treating me like a part of your family. I will never forget your love and generosity.
As far as the relationship with Rocker Boy goes, I am not sure that I will be able to forgive him this time. He accused me of cheating on him (with a guy who is gay) and read my personal emails with his friend Dork Nugget. They twisted my words and made it seem like I was cheating when I really had just made some good friends (which was the purpose of me doing the play in the first place). Dork Nugget encouraged this thinking because Dork Nugget is unhappy about his recently failed relationship. Misery loves company and Dork Nugget wanted a friend to be in the same boat. Rocker Boy actually fell for this despite the fact that the emails clearly state that NOTHING romantic was going on.
When I came home and saw that he took things from the apartment that I paid for, like the couch pillows and the hanging mirror, I was appalled. I am sure that you know that I have been beyond generous to Rocker Boy and always contributed to the things in our home. For him to steal from me when he owes me $721.95 is inexcusable. I paid off some of his credit card debt during the end of February (totaling $821.95) and after repaying me $100 he stopped the reimbursement. In addition, he did not pay the last month’s rent. So, you would think that he would leave some of our joint possessions behind, knowing that he was still greatly in debt to me.
Also, I am not sure if you know but he wrote a horrible message to me on the bathroom mirror. My father was with me when I found it and he was shocked and upset to say the least. Especially, since he knows that what Rocker Boy was alleging was not true. How would you feel if someone wrote that about Mandy or took things that belonged to her when he owed her hundreds of dollars? My Dad cannot except that someone would do something so hateful and cruel to someone that they supposedly love.
I just think that he stooped too low this time. By moving out, taking my things and exploiting my generosity, he has crossed the line and proven to me that he is not mature enough to handle our relationship, let alone a marriage. He disgraced me with his truly dishonorable actions.
Although I love you and Rocker Boy’s Dad deeply and could never thank you enough for all your support, I do not have it in my heart to look past Rocker Boy’s irrational actions and hurtful behavior. I am glad that I got the opportunity to tell you what happened from my perspective. I wish only the best for him in the future but I know now that the future does not include me.
I hope someday you can understand why I feel the way I feel. I do not want to hurt your feelings in anyway; I have only respect and love for you.
I never heard back from Rocker Boy’s Mom on that email. I guess she got the hint. So ends my preaching on love and money for the time being. I hope you were able to take something away from the story. However, isn’t this a great segue into relationships and family? Stay tuned my friends. The next installment is a doozie.
PS. Grandmom ended up being ok.